You may have noticed that I had been neglecting my blog since I started school. Well, a kind of momentous occasion slipped right by and, because I was crazy-out-of-my-mind stressed with finals, I never even stopped by here to let you know.
On April 26, Phil and I celebrated our 10 year anniversary.
There was never any doubt in my mind that we would see this anniversary (and many more to come), but I still feel a sense of wonderment that its arrived.
I just mean that its been the quickest and easiest 10 years of my life – the years between then and now have flown by, filled with lots of laughter, some tears, and always the knowledge that this man is my soul mate.
When we booked our trip for San Diego, it was because after the stress of school, I wanted to go to a place I knew that I loved and would afford me the relaxation that I so desperately needed. It wasn’t until we got there that I remembered this was the first trip we took as a couple almost 12 years ago to the day.
So between all the happy hour drinks and delicious food, I spent a great deal of time reminiscing.
The first time we went, we stayed at a condo in La Jolla, overlooking the ocean. It was wonderful, and we spent a lot of time sitting on a bench in front of that condo, coffee and Baileys in hand, watching the waves roll in with surfers on their backs. It quickly became one of our favourite spots to visit 12 years ago and we made sure to pencil in plenty of time there on this trip.
When we got there this trip, we sat together, in silence – with the exception of a few comments on the people around us* – and just let the serenity wash over us. While I love talking with my husband – sharing our days, planning our future or just chatting about daily trivialities – I also love to just be with him. Sometimes we don’t need a lot of words, we can share our feelings and our experiences in silence and just be.
That was exactly what we were doing on our bench, when an elderly couple walked up and took the seats next to us. He was wearing a casual bright blue shirt, and she wore a hat to protect her face from the sun and long sleeves despite the heat.
They held hands as they sat down and settled in for a good, long sit.
She opened her (pretty awesome) green bag and took out a case which contained sunglasses. She passed them to him, as he removed his glasses and gave them to her for safe keeping. She popped them into the case and tucked it back into her purse. After awhile, she opened her purse and handed him a water bottle and something to snack on.
They sat mostly in silence, speaking only a few words here and there on something that caught that their eye. It was obvious they loved just being there. Together.
It was incredibly sweet, and I wondered how long they had been coming to this very spot and doing this very same thing.
And I wondered if, in another 10 or 20 years down the road, will we be doing that too?
I really hope so.